Sunday, September 1, 2013

Night on the Town













Blazer: c/o Choies; Dress: Madewell; Shoes: H&M; Necklace: Cbiji Collection

Ben is a be-er and I am a do-er. He likes to sit and observe. I like to act. He likes to move slowly. I like to move quickly. He is happy to wander and I am not. In fact, I hate wandering. It's irritating. If there isn't a destination or a goal to an activity, I don't want to be doing it. Last night, Ben decided that he needed to wander about the city to get out and enjoy the night air. But he wasn't sure how far he wanted to stroll, in what direction he wanted to wander, or if he wanted to end up somewhere one, two miles, or three miles away. And so we wandered, much to my irritation, about two miles into the city and walked in circles until I complained enough to go home.

Funny enough, once I had a destination in mind, I was totally happy to meander the city streets. I was enjoying the lights and the streets and watching the people. With a destination in mind, it didn't matter that we were not walking in a straight line home and it didn't matter that our feet hurt a bit from the concrete. Ben's mood, however, turned in the opposite direction. Once we had a destination, his feet hurt too much to meander, he wanted to go home, and he was too hot. He was aching to get back to the house as the mission of his trip had been completed. His destination was the wander and once it was over, it was no longer any fun.

We laughed about the difference between us while we walked, and it's something I don't think we'll ever reconcile. I'm built for progress and he's built to enjoy the here and now. He is always stopping to smell the roses while I want to get to the roses, smell the roses, take a picture, say we've done it, and get outta there. In thinking about future outings, I told Ben he needed to tell me a destination, a focal point of the outing (we're walking into the Pearl, but let's not walk quickly or in a straight line or we're walking for a 1/2 hour) instead of being wishy washy about direction and intent. Once I get an idea of what we were doing in the city streets, I can get on board with the mission.

The pictures above were the only product of the walk into the evening streets. So at least something was accomplished that's tangible! What kind of disconnects do you have with your partner/S.O./BF/GF that you just can't reconcile?

41 comments

  1. Very nice necklace!

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  2. Love the pink blazer. Two words: opposites attract. Or if you're alike, then it's a perfect match. Either way, you look at it, couples getting along is hard to explain.

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  3. You look so beautiful, really elegant, love the dress.

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  4. You are absolutely stunning and your outfit in this is impeccable in this.

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  5. You look stunning! The necklace looks so pretty on you! :)

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  6. Such a cute outfit, really like how the necklace pops.

    Brigita,
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  7. I think those differences are what keeps things interesting and fun in relationships! You look so adorable in this very chic and feminine attire, that necklace is so sweet!

    Cee. ♥
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  8. You guys sound like my husband and me, I'm the doer. I do, however, love to wander...for me it's about discovering new things!
    xo
    styleontheside.com

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  9. Haha... Well, my husband needs his alone time and I get a little cray cray if I spend too much time alone but that's ok we work hard at giving what each other needs... I think that's why in healthy relationships there will always be some compromise... :) It's totally worth it...
    Hope
    hchdesigns.blogspot.com

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  10. So cool to read about the differences between you two - I think I'm probably more like Ben, but also a bit of a mix.
    These pictures are beautiful! Your dress is lovely, and looks amazing with the blazer.

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  11. Too funny. I like to talk walks or ummm wander. But usually in late afernoon/dusk in the fall and winter, in a less dense environment then Manhattan, and usually alone. But I do not do this as much as I use to since I started blogging. Just too busy.

    Ali of

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  12. I'm like you, definitely a proactive doer! It must be in our blood or something. Loving the color of that blazer though. It's absolutely stunning!

    Have a great day!
    Grace
    A Southern Drawl

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  13. blazer perfection! I love your styling pretty lady!

    xx
    Here&Now

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  14. what a fun twist on the standard blazer--love your look!

    Colour Me Classic

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  15. wow I am so much loving your outfit! Your blazer and your statement necklace totally make it pop out, such a great look!
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    Ester @ Drawing Dreaming

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  16. love your necklace!

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  17. I love the mix of soft white dress with the blazer...& that statement necklace sealed the deal!

    Rebecca
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  18. amazing blazer, you look so pretty


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  19. Haha, I can definitely relate to needing a destination! Love your necklace and the color of that blazer is gorgeous.

    xo, Michelle
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  20. Beautiful dress. Looks perfect with the blazer. I love that color.

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  21. Look at you looking all perfectly adult and all professional! You are so cute!

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  22. What a beautiful color on you.

    Kisses,
    Sofia

    stylishlyinlove.blogspot.com

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  23. Wes and I are the exact same way! It sounds like your night meandering ended up going well - your photos are beautiful! I love this dress and blazer combo!

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  24. love that color blazer! perfect for transitioning into cooler months! x

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  25. girl that blazer looks great with that fess! How fun are the city pictures? sounds like a great place for pictures :)

    xxS

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  26. Adorable outfit! Love the peach color blazer!

    Kisses,
    Victoriya

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  27. Casual look, the real perfection :) So chic!!

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  28. Beautiful look, dear! Adorable freckles! :)

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  29. Gorgeous pictures of the city! Love your blazer and necklace too.
    xx Sarah
    sarah kate style

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  30. I love the color of your blazer, and the necklace is gorgeous!

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  31. that blazer is the perfect color!

    xx Alecia with www.likesof.us

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  32. This is a really lovely and well put together outfit. So elegant and classy.

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  33. This is such a gorgeous outfit! I absolutely love your style. Casual yet very elegant and chic! And that blazer is PERFECT for this time of year!
    I also really like the scenery... picture perfect!
    xoxo Nicole

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  34. LOVE Maria at inredningsvis - inredning it's, Swedish for decor :)

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  35. LOVE this post:) and your blog Is so inspiring.

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    have a great day dear

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  36. Yay, another Portland blogger!!! And I am like you -- I need a destination or goal or framework for, well, anything. And you look lovely in that coral color, and all the photos in this post look pretty dreamy and soft. Isn't dusk the perfect light and setting for photos? :)

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  37. I LOVE this look girl! So cute and effortless

    xo, Nina
    afterthe40barfinish

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