Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Internal Monologue

When I am out in the chilly park behind the apartment taking outfit photos, I picture myself as this lanky model, legs for miles, long hair with blunt ends swinging in the wind, carrying a Prada bag in navy or plum and applying YSL lipstick, Paris behind me like a backdrop painted just for me. No surprise that I'm often baffled at the photo result. I am guessing that I'm not the only one who is often disappointed with my style blogging results (did I suddenly become asymmetrical? What is up with my hair? Well that shirt needs to be washed!) - plagued by an internal monologue and mirror. 

I often get stuck in this blogging rut of "I'll never have Christian Louboutins" and "my apartment will never achieve that mix of DIY and Anthropologie" and "I'll never cook muffins for fun on Sundays and take beautiful photos of them for the world to drool over." Maybe what I'm describing is just my good old friend, envy, but I'm curious to hear what everyone else thinks. Are you all bothered by the same things? Or am I alone here, sitting in my slightly messy apartment looking more like a tired, normal human, instead of a ready-boudoir photo-shoot, and feeling jealous of the bloggers that are zipping about Europe in leather jackets.

So, I think that every once in a while it's important to look back through the archives and find the photos you am really proud of. Whether it was the fact that I didn't look as pale as a sheet, or my outfit matched the changing leaves, or we just managed a really neat photo, they help me feel like I'm making some great progress on the blog, not only with my style, but with cataloging a portion of my life. I'm not necessarily getting closer to the Christian Louboutins, but I do have more than one pair of heels and I'm getting great at adding non-destructive filters and rosy cheeks (shh!) to my photos. 

I think it's also important to remember that I'm not a jet-setter, I'm a normal person, with an 8-5 job and no time to get manicures or blow-outs and no cash to spend on thousand-dollar handbags. And I'm still really loving the parts of my life that don't just exist on a digital memory card. 

I'd love to hear what you all think about blogging and dealing with blog inferiority complexes... how do you do it in a wash of blogs where people have far better closets, living rooms, DIY skills, than you?


  1. I love the first and second outfits the best, so gorgeous! :)

    <3 CC

  2. Gah, you are SUCH a cutie pie! :)

  3. I think we all have our moments. It's funny to hear you struggle with that, because I always think your photos look like they belong in a magazine!

  4. I definitely agree with you on a point that everyone does have inferiority complex and that "internal monologue". Yesterday my internal monologue was that "You're gonna look good in those flowy satin pants!", but my inferiority complex told me I looked like a cow in front of the mirror. I basically deal with it by not letting any side win, and just continue on doing what I love and wearing stuff that I love seeing in front of the mirror.

    The Dilly Chic

  5. Very well said! Although, I don't think you should feel down because you don't own designer items or because you're apartment isn't so glamorous. You should be thankful for what you already have, and automatically you'll see improvements. No matter how bad you think you are, there are millions out there who are worse, and I honestly think your outfit photos are fantastic! I do hope you improve the way you want to in the future :)


  6. I think we all go through this at some point. Always wishing we were something else. It is important to stay true to yourself and who you are. The rest will fall into place. Oh and your pics and outfits are great!!

  7. This is a really nice selection, love the second one the best!

  8. Sometimes I go through the envy thing. I think that's why I've started to stray away from just outfit posts - I got a bit too competitive and it didn't make me happy .. :(
    But to battle the envy, I've tried to be my own unique self. If people don't like it, fine. But if they do, all the better. At least I'm selling them the truth :)
    Love your idea of looking back on things to be proud of! Love the first outfit, such a cute blouse!

  9. I go through moments during my blogging that I feel completely unsatisfied. I know I can't afford certain things, or have all day to try and take the perfect picture. I loved reading what you had to say. It was such a powerful insight; good for you! We all have the potential to be great bloggers. You definitely are!
    xoxo, Megan


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